गुरुवार, 30 जुलाई 2020

Marriage --need new valuation

Marriage is the most underrated and negatively worked on social concern... it's beyond jokes its unimaginable impact on personalities and also families.
Evolution is the need of time. We evolve in parenting, lifestyle, globalisation, work culture etc why not in the marriage as a relation..the ceremony is more headache than you stay in...when we have wedding planner pre-photo shoot how can forget pre-marriage counselling, physical mental and health check up building a connection...why not?
No women should be said to learn this to please inlaws. no men should be taught earn well to get the good bride.
There is no therapy or recipe which tells us about the success or failure of the marriage.
Also, it never judges good or bad or worst as an individual.
It works- it works. It didn't work -it didn't work. Why ..?why not..? if ...?
We need to diverge and sort our thinking in progressive ways to channelise the coupled energy.
The conflict/breaks/differences refer to the growth mindset in society.
We are enough mature to sort the conflict diligently.
Which relation has no jitters?
What makes the marriage so difficult or peer pressure on a couple?
What is making it difficult to work out why jokes are always there?
I feel so upset when I feel people get insecure or shattered or lose their identities etc etc
Is our society seeding the wrong things/signals/standards for marriage?
Is our society too bound to break the thought process or the traditional track?
How can we work out to make it wonderful?
Isn't this relationship need to be beautiful.
Two souls are meeting and making life easy, but actually, they didn't realize when they become so difficult for each other.
Disrespectful ,casual , unattractive ,harsh words ,parents ,opinion ,granted , indecisive ..
Whenever the fight happen why it goes so bad how can we minimize it? Can we make it simple?
Living in marriage embrace you, make wishful changes in your life. It is more beyond parents, brother, sister and other relation.
Can we think, how to make relation beautiful? We are thinking and doing it knowingly or unknowingly. But if not fruitful than can isn't we chose the wrong partner. or wrong ideology or past grudges...
More closeness more insecurities more expectations weird sense of humour makes it difficult to manage.
What is more or less in a relation? Who will decide- right or wrong?
We need to figure out and set some rules ..?
Isn't marriage always influenced by the people around us, their relationship dynamics and equations, behaviour ..We see the success and failure in that way?
We need to feed the nurturing thoughts in kids for marriage. We don't need to idealise it but we need to be true and set easier, sorted relations in life.
We are very excited and ready to get married but we should know the strength and weakness of relation as well. We can draw boundaries and if not drawn than what next can be done.
It is a serious affair we need to be true on all fronts and do the basics well.
Partner must come above all relations because they are support system not analyst or critics..counsellors or pacifiers..yew they can do that if needed but why needed? why can't things work with the pace needed...partner is actual soul must be the mirror above all you need to stay in that relation forever. ..my families my health my vision my salaries looks good if becomes ours..our goals our achievements our consideration, our stupidities, our concerns they sound and felt beautiful ...
Stay blessed! stay hungry! stay in a relationship!